Today has been dubbed Military Spouse Appreciation Day and here’s my two cents
It’s hard to be a spouse period. Being married is hard and requires a lot of work and love for the other person. I loved my husband before he was a soldier and I will love that man after he retires. I will love him for the rest of my life.
I don’t talk a lot about the military on my blog because I try not to let it define me. Define my family. We are a military family but we are so much more. Many people believe the worst about military spouse and call our children Army (or any other branch) brats. They think we believe we are entitled to things we aren’t and believe that we have these great adventures and some do. But we also have deployments, week to month long field exercises when our spouses don’t get to come home. Training at other bases. PTSD. Solo parenting for months on end. Children lashing out at us because they don’t understand why their mommys and daddys are gone.
You see the movies depicting this fairytale. This “being apart makes you stronger” crap and the best…the amazing and wonderful homecoming scenes. I hate the homecoming scenes the most because homecomings are the best and worst days. And of course, there’s the ever so lovely PTSD that no one wants to talk about. Not the soldier, not the spouse, not anyone.
Military life isn’t for everyone and everyone isn’t for military life. I have days I love the military and days I hate it. But no matter what, I will support my husband and all of our troops because they are the ones protecting my freedoms.
So to my military spouse friends, I applaud you. I love you. And I am always here for you. Our lives aren’t easy but we do it any way.