This week…April 24-30 is National Infertility Awareness Week. And the issue, Infertility, is important to me. Not because I suffer from it but because I know so many beautiful women who do.
I have to start by saying, my eyes have only recently been opened to the issue of infertility. I knew that some had trouble conceiving but I never knew how many women and men it affected ( 1 in 8 women and men are diagnosed with infertility) and how heartbreaking it can truly be.
Watching someone you love go through the struggle of infertility is beyond difficult, especially when you have kids of your own. You want to do everything possible to help them but you have to realize that you can’t. There is nothing that can be said or done to make the pain go away. I have learned that the best things I can do is love, support, and pray.
I do want to say this…while there isn’t much we can say or do to help those we love who suffer from infertility there are many things we can NOT say….
*Don’t say that the pregnancy will happen when it’s supposed to happen.
*Don’t say that they can always adopt. It’s NOT the same and while adoption is a wonderful outlet it may not be the right outlet for some.
*Don’t tell them things happen for a reason. Not cool on any level.
*Don’t tell them they could always use a surrogate.
*Know that they are thrilled that you are pregnant but may not want every aspect of your pregnancy announced to them. No, it is not your fault that you got pregnant and they suffer from infertility but there is a thing called sensitivity.
*Know that you may not be the right person for them to talk to or vent about their infertility struggles. Just wait for them to talk to you and vent to you. They will talk to you about it when they’re ready.
If you have a loved one suffering from infertility, educate yourself. Many women blog about their experiences, there are tons of websites. Educate yourself so you can help. Those of us who don’t suffer from infertility will never know what pain and suffering those who do suffer from infertility go through. And we shouldn’t try to act as if we will ever understand. Just be there, loving and supporting, and praying for those who do.